Monday, March 17, 2008

Joey's 5th

This past weekend we celebrated Joey’s fifth birthday party with twenty-five of his closest friends at a local venue known as “Bounceland.” The location is a industrial building that has been converted into a childrens place and filled with massive air-blower powered creations that cater towards children and adults that are young at heart. Slides, castles, obstacle courses, and houses are all a part of these massive structures that create a child’s Eden.

Jessamyn and Joey had been invited to another birthday party here that started an hour earlier so we had arrived in plenty of time for the kids to play before starting our own party.

After about a half hour Jess quietly left the bounce area and headed into a private party room for her friend’s birthday party while Joey continued to play away.

Shortly thereafter, Joey’s friends started arriving at the front door and I ran to get him from the play area so that he could greet his guests.

I was amazed at just how many friends my son has as well as how jovial and genuinely friendly they all were together.

Right away, the kids started talking about Jedi’s and Star Wars and later moving onto how much fun they were about to have “bouncing.”

Joey was proud to point out his name with the number “5” printed next to it on a wall near the entrance to all of his friends as they made their way inside.

After about ten minutes of play I was accosted, while chasing my son and his friends with my camera, by two of Jessamyn’s friends.

“Where’s Jessamyn?”

“Well, she is here but at another birthday party.”

“We want you to go and get her for us.”

At this point feeling the heated desires of two girls, I went to find my daughter as she was in the middle of eating cake at the other party.

I whisper in her ear “Jess, you have a couple of friends looking for you. Do you want to come and join them? Please?”

She wisely indicated that she’d like to finish her cake first, but that she’d be right out.

I then tried relaying this information to her friends, but found a brick wall quickly thrown in my path.

“Well, we’d like you to go and get her now, though.”

Fearing for my social life at this point, I’m trapped with no way out from these two as they have cornered me as they demanded action. Fortunately Jessamyn showed up right at that moment to save me and the three girls went running off like the three Musketeers towards the nearest slide based device.

At this point, I catch back up with Joey and his friends to take some time rough-housing with them as I chased them around one of the playthings and I acted the part of an angry beast.

Although red-faced, I’m amazed at Joey’s energy and stamina. By now, he has been playing non-stop for over. This exuberance stands in stark contrast to earlier events of the day when he first arrived at his dance class in the morning.

After a few short minutes of warm-up running, he emerged from his class looking for me stating that “Daddy, I’m really tired and I need to take a break.”

“Can’t you just sit down right here for a minute or two?” I asked as I pointed to a spot against the wall next to the door just inside the classroom.

“No, Daddy, that’s only for time-outs and I’m not being bad yet” which, coming from him was a true statement at this point, but in recent classes he and a fellow co-conspirator have routinely avoided Mr. Lonnie’s instructions during class as they craft their own “firefighter” slash “rescue hero” based scenarios instead of paying attention. I suggest that maybe he should just take it easy for a little bit and then re-join his class.

“Well, ‘ok’, I’ll go back, but I’m really tired” he says before rejoining his group as they finish up their last laps around the room. A minute later he re-emerges again saying “it’s ‘ok’ Daddy, I’m just going to the bathroom.” He rushes into the bathroom, neglecting both closing the door and turning the light on as he performs his duty in full earshot of the multitude of other parents patiently awaiting the end of the hour long dance classes.

“Ok, I’m going back in to my class now” he says on the return trip from the restroom.

This all happened seven hours ago by this point and his earlier fatigue now seems quashed as he runs non-stop through this jungle-like environment.














As we move into our private room for cake and presents am swarmed by a sea of Darth Vader faced children wearing masks my wife and Brooke spent several hours putting together in previous nights.

While my wife is cutting the cake I find my son pulling all his friends over to his present table and pumping them for information about what they got him.

“So, tell me which one you got me… ok, what’s inside it?”










A couple of them realized that they probably shouldn’t be releasing this information, but after a little more persuasion by Joey they gave in.

“Joey!” I tell him “you shouldn’t be getting your friends to tell you what they got you. That’s the point of a present. It’s all about the surprise.”

“But Dad, I was just asking them about the presents they got me. I just want to know.”

Simple logic from a five year old, I’m sure.

The plethora of presents astounds both Jenny and I. He’s gotten more gifts than we’ve ever seen for him. Enough that we have to institute a policy of ‘only one gift per day’ can be opened.

A friend makes a statement that almost brings me to his knees as he approaches Joey while he’s opening his presents “Joey, can I have your address and phone number so I can give them to my mom to setup a time for me to come over and play with all your new toys.”

Children really do wear their hearts on their sleeves.

A wonderful party is had by all as another year passes and our little boy becomes not so little anymore.

jp

Friday, March 14, 2008

Today, Tomorrow, and Forever

What would you do if you knew today was your last day to live?

There would be no more tomorrow. These last few hours are all that you have left with family, friends, dreams, and your life.

· Would you stay sitting at your computer ‘till the late night hours helping the company you work for improve its bottom line?
· Would you run out screaming into the streets in pure panic?
· Would you fall into a fetal ball crumbling under the humbling emotions of a terminal nature?
· Would you live out some fantasy you’ve never had the courage to overcome?

This is a tough question to ask, but it is one that I try to ask myself every day.

We never know what our last moment will be on this planet, at least not at this age, and this mantra helps keep my focus towards the things that really matter.

· Is it really worth me getting caught up with the fact that the kids are going to bed later than they probably should justbecause I’m spending time reading books and playing games with them?
· Should I really be upset that I’m letting a deadline slip at the office so I can come home on time to be with my wife and children?
· Shouldn't being mad at Jocie for unrolling yet another toilet paper roll on the floor be less important than realizing the fun she’s just had doing it and enjoying the moment of bliss she’s having?

The interactions we create with other life paths should be one of our most important goals in thinking about living our lifes.

What role should material possesions play in our lives?

I love my toys… I really do… they make me happy, that much is true, but the truth is you can’t take these things with you when you “go.”

This is true, but one other aspect to consider is how these material possessions help us to create and remember events and people that have touched our lives: pictures, movies, music, buildings, travel, etc (you get the picture).

It's not what you have that matters, it's what you do with it that really counts.

In a recent segment on NPR, an author released a book on the geography of happiness. This was an interesting segment that pointed out that the US is not a very happy place to live, and that even small underdeveloped nations can experience greater amounts of joy by just living out their lives to the fullest rather than getting caught up in money and success.

One of the other points the author makes is that to experience life-long joy, one of the things we need to do is to spend at least fifteen minutes a day thinking about death.

Wierd, huh?

What a revelation this was to hear and to put into practice in our own lives.

Thinking about death and how much we need to pack in the meaningful things between the bookends that surround our existence has taught me about what matters most.

It has taught me that I need to make memories with my kids.

Make joy for my wife.

If I die tomorrow, what will define my immortality?

Even though we may be gone, what imprint do we leave in the memories and impressions of those we leave behind?

In a controversial discussion about the one single person who had the greatest impact on the 20th century, the name of Adolf Hitler kept coming to the front of the list. While at first I was appalled at just the thought of this horrible man getting any form of credit after the horrors he brought on mankind, but after further reflection, I realized that although his actions were atrocious, he may have had the greatest impact on life in the past hundred years.

This is not the history I’d like to create for myself, but, I use it as an example about making an impact.

I would really like to have an impact on people and the lives I’ve touched, and in a good way.

So, ask yourself these questions each day. Try to live life to its fullest. Don’t sweat the small stuff (Joanne… this means you!!!) and live today in the image you’d like to remember yourself as in death or in late life.

jp

Thursday, March 13, 2008

Jenny and Jay's Pictures of the Day



Car vs.Train Accident in Portage, MI at Centre and Shaver Intersection

At around 11:30am this morning the City of Portage Fire Department was dispatched to a vehicle versus train accident at the intersection of Centre Road and Shaver Road.

The driver of the rental truck had been northbound on Shaver and was attempting a turn right to head East on Centre Road when the collision occurred. The impact pushed the rental truck into the overhead railroad crossing signal which was severed from its base and fell into the traffic lanes on Centre Road.

The train came to a stop about 1/4 mile past the accident scene blocking Wesnedge Avenue at Shaver Road.

As of 1:00pm both East and West lanes on Centre Road and Westnedge Avenue at Shaver Road were closed due to the accident with lengthy traffic backups in all directions on Centre Road and Shaver Road.

The driver of the truck suffered head injuries and was transported by ambulance to a local hospital.

The train appeared to have only minor damage from the impact that totaled the rental truck. A small leakage from the lead train engine required the response of an environmental cleanup crew and supplemental tankers to off load the several thousand gallons of diesel fuel in the side saddle compartment.

The Michigan State Police accident reconstruction team was dispatched from Paw Paw to the scene to assist the Portage Police Department in the investigation.

News 3 and News 8 were also present with film crews capturing footage for this evening's newcasts as well as a reporter from the Kalamazoo Gazette.

jp






Our New Colors

Here are some quick pictures of our new color scheme in our Master Bedroom.

jp


Breakfast With The Kids

The other morning, I sat with the kids while they ate their morning breakfast of cerial. Jessamyn really enjoying the photographic company, but Joey and Jocie seemed for focused on the food in front of them.

jp






Humor me


Note the happy Baby Jocie singing along and playing in the tub?




Note the older sister Jessamyn now participating in the singing and playing in the tub?

Ahh, but look at the older brother taking a gander at the large assortment of bubbles on his hand.
I wonder what he has in plan for those bubbles?

Here is a wonderful gift from Jocie's older brother.

Who wouldn't want a faceful of bubbles.

Note the smirk on Joey's face.

Given Jocie's operant conditioning to her siblings behaviour, she is not even troubled by it and keeps on having fun!!!

Go Jocie!!!

jp